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Wednesday, Apr 23rd, 2008

Have you ever had a stalker? Can you imagine someone always lingering around, watching everything you're doing? What would you do??


On second thought, I don't think the police would be of much help...
Current Mood: [ creepy ]
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Tuesday, Apr 22nd, 2008

Yoinked from here.

Want an honest and long lasting relationship? Make sure you and your partner can recite these five statements.

I can live without you, no problem

"I can't live," wails the singer, "if living is without you." The emotion that fuels this kind of relationship isn't love; it's desperation. It can feel romantic at first, but over time it invariably fails to meet either partner's needs.

If this is how you feel, don't start dating. Start therapy. Counseling can teach you how to get your needs met by the only person responsible for them: you. "I can live without you" is an assurance that sets the stage for real love.

My love for you will definitely change

Most human beings seem innately averse to change. Once we've established some measure of comfort or stability, we want to nail it in place so that there's no possibility of loss. Unfortunately, this is another promise that is more likely to scuttle a relationship than shore it up.

The reason is that everything -- and everyone -- is constantly changing. We age, grow, learn, get sick, get well, gain weight, lose weight, find new interests and drop old ones. Many people fear that if their love is free to change, it will vanish. The opposite is true. A love that is allowed to adapt to new circumstances is virtually indestructible.

You're not everything I need

I'm a big fan of sexual monogamy, but I'm puzzled by lovers who claim that their romantic partner is the only person they need in their lives or that time together is the only activity necessary for emotional fulfillment. Humans are designed to live in groups, explore ideas, and constantly learn new skills.

Trying to get all this input from one person is like trying to get a full range of vitamins by eating only ice cream. When a couple believes "We must fulfill all of each other's needs, each becomes exhausted by the effort to be all things to the other and neither can develop fully as an individual.

Sacrificing all our individual needs doesn't strengthen a relationship. Mutually supporting each other's personal growth does.

I won't always hold you close

There's a thin line between a romantic statement like "I love you so much, I want to share my life with you until death do us part" and the lunatic-fringe anthem "I love you so much that if you try to leave me, I'll kill you."

People who say such things love others the way spiders love flies; they love to capture them, wrap them in immobilizing fetters, and drain nourishment out of them at peckish moments. This is not the kind of love you want.

The way you can tell real love from spider love is simple: Possessiveness and exploitation involve controlling the loved one, whereas true love is based on setting the beloved free to make his or her own choices.

You and I aren't one

Perhaps you are neither a spider nor a fly, but a chameleon who morphs to match the one you love. Or you may date chameleons, choosing partners who conform to your personality. Either way, you're not in a healthy relationship. In fact, you're not in a relationship at all.

If you're living by the "We are one" ideal, it's high time you found out how terrific love for two can be. Follow your heart in a direction your partner wouldn't go. Dare to explore your differences. Agree to disagree. If you're accustomed to disappearing, this will allow you to see that you can be loved as you really are. If you tend to dominate, you'll find out how interesting it is to love an actual person rather than a human mirror.
Current Mood: [ busy ]
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Thursday, Apr 17th, 2008

Dearest journal,

I have been woefully neglecting you. I make no apologies, however - I've been busy. SO VERY BUSY!!

Despite that, not a whole lot to say. Well......... lots to say, but so much not worth saying, or moreso - not worth the effort of typing it up in a coherent fashion.

Bah, forget coherence - let's just see what comes up over the next while. I have an evening at the computer, and no great hurry to click "Post entry" on this, so...

Funny how people come and go in one's life. No particular reason most of the time. I've often had in mind an analogy of people to gems; multifaceted, some with few but large facets, and others with lots of small ones. From time to time, these facets will match up with those of another. Sometimes, they don't match up anymore. Such is life, I suppose.

I was going to be a dad again. Mom was at eight months along. There was an accident. No more baby. This was a few weeks ago, and this is the first I've posted about it. I was quite upset, but no one I tried to talk to about it would just..... listen. The whole thing was an odd situation, so naturally they had an opinion to express. So... I didn't talk about it anymore. That's all I'm going to say about that.

I'm thinking of buying a vehicle this year. My first. An SUV, most likely. I like the looks of the RAV4's, but a couple of others have also been rather cute. Is that a good way to judge the worthiness of a vehicle?? Well, beyond that, the RAV4's seem to rate well in consumer reports. Any thoughts on this? Any automobile enthusiasts out there reading this drivel?

I bought new pots and pans. They're still in the box in the spare room. I also bought new dishes. They, too, are still in the box in the spare room.

I really wanted to clean off the deck and patio furniture this weekend. It would seem, however, that Mother Nature is going to thumb her nose at me. Negative temperatures and flurries does not make for good outdoor cleaning weather.

The spare room is well equipped should a no-heat-required dinner party break out in there, as long as everyone will eat with their fingers. I have not purchased new cutlery lately. Oh - I have no napkins in there either... this could get messy.

I need to start saving for another vacation. Somewhere warm. Or hot. But not too hot. With beaches and non-stop drinks. If I left for a couple of months, would anyone notice...? That would be an awesome break. Wanna come with me?

I like sneezing. Except when it's messy.

People at work notice my hanging bats more often now. For some reason, they could have been standing at my desk previously and not really notice them; but now... all they have to do is walk past the office and they notice them. Is there a tendency to pay more attention to the details within an office? Is that why managers seem to like offices - do they tend to be people who pay more attention to details? Certainly they seem to notice when someone of lower stature gets an office that's half a foot larger than their own...

Who's foot was it that measured exactly 12 inches? Someone should have cut off his toes; 10 inches would have made the whole system a lot easier.

The last couple of nights, I've actually gotten some decent sleep, filled with lots of dreams! I can't really remember much about them, and you're probably better off for it. I kept hitting 'snooze' and getting back into the dream. Wait - let me rephrase that: I kept getting up, walking across the room, hitting 'snooze', walking back across the room, flopping back onto the bed and getting back into the dream. I'm not sure if that's a blessing or a bane - it's nice to be able to do it, but there's definite "oversleeping" potential. Angelina was amazing.

Thank you very much, don't forget to tip your waitress!
Current Mood: [ lonely ]
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Saturday, Mar 29th, 2008

...just got one of those annoying phone call from HBC; they want me to join some Lifestyle Rewards program.

If it ain't that, it's for life insurance. Or possibly for long distance calling. And they certainly do their best not to take 'no' for an answer.

Last time, I was adamant about having the nice young man explain to me exactly how it was that I was going to be saving money on my long distance calling when, oddly, it sounded to me remarkably like my monthly bill would increase. He ended up hanging up on me. I guess my formidable math skills were just too much for the poor guy.

Anyway, I'm tired of getting these calls from them. I asked straight out whether I was receiving this call because I had an HBC account - she said yes. "Well," I said, "I'll have to remedy that."

Next steps - redeem any points, then cancel that card.
Current Mood: [ irritated ]
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Wednesday, Mar 26th, 2008

...can't sleep... clown will eat me.
...can't sleep... clown will eat me.
...can't sleep... clown will eat me.

Woke up about a half hour ago. Can't turn off the brain. So many things going through my head, mostly about work. Figured I might as well just get up and do something constructive about it.

And, no, I don't just mean write a journal entry about it.
Current Mood: [ awake ]
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Monday, Mar 10th, 2008

I haven't even read El-Jay in about a month now. I'm so not going back though everything.
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Tuesday, Feb 12th, 2008

I suppose a quick update wouldn't kill me...

Got a tentative promotion at work to Team Lead. Now, instead of knowing my own job, I have to get to know the entire team's jobs, at least on a basic level. Loads of details to learn, e-mail to catch up on, approvals, reports, meetings, change requests, timesheets. So busy right now with all this "getting up to speed"; I'll be glad once the learning stuff is over and I get the hang of it... I say 'tentative' because our client has yet to approve; but their only other option is to have us bring someone in from outside the account, and possibly from outside the company. Clearly, my advantage is that I already have a couple of years experience onsite to know (a fair bit of) the environment.

Also have a bunch of training to get through - some of it previously signed up for that I was in the middle of, and some now assigned due to my new role.

Almost done painting the upstairs hallway, just finishing up on doorframes and hard-to-reach places. Seems to take so long, but I guess it does when ya only do a bit at a time.

Kidlet is just getting over a bout of chicken pox. Not so bad, mainly just itchy.

Stunt season is coming up in a few months. Not sure what I'm going to do with S for those dates...

Wishing I had more time to spend with friends.

Current Mood: [ lonely ]
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Tuesday, Jan 15th, 2008

I don't suppose anyone here knows anything about EMC CIFS shares and SMB (MaxMpxCount, MaxWorkItem) settings...? As in, how to configure said settings on the EMC device.
Current Mood: [ undah preshah! ]
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Monday, Jan 14th, 2008

Pass/Fail: Pass
Current Mood: [ relieved ]
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Fuck me, I was almost zapped this morning by the hair dryer as electricity chewed its way through the power cord... it's not like it was frayed or showed any signs of being weak or what-not. Quick burning smell, then *POP* and sparks!!

Worst part is that I've feared for years that I'll end up electrocuted by a hair dryer.

Close call, Fates, but you'll have to try harder than that.

On second thought, I'd prefer that you didn't.

I have an exam in a half hour. I honestly don't know how I'm gonna do on this. I mean, I did alright in the practices, but they're a year old so I'm not sure how up-to-date they are.

Oh well, here goes nothin'...
Current Mood: [ nervous ]
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