"Low self esteem is the ultimate self-fulfilling prophecy. The worse you feel about yourself, the easier it is to become the sort of person who you aren't happy to be. The easiest way to feel better is to look to someone else to reassure you of your self worth, but as you do, you are drawing energy away from that person, and you are also placing responsibility for your happiness and well-being in someone else's hands. That's not fair.
Take care of yourself first. Love yourself first. Glory in yourself first. Find your own beauty and strength and sense of joy that relies on no other person. Then you will be ready for healthy relationships."